Letting Go

One of the most challenging things in my job is telling people that they need to let go.  This is such a difficult concept for people to grasp, and very challenging for me to explain in words.  I have seen this so much lately.  People come into my store, their child is sick.  They talk about their child’s illness, they give the illness life.  They research the illness and the more energy they put into what they think is “trying to work through”, “overcome the illness” or “eliminate the illness”, the more life they give it.  Energetically they try to get me to move with them (if you will) to help talk more about the illness.  As they do this I can feel them pulling on me energetically to get “buy in” from me almost as if they are trying to dump the responsibility of this illness on me.  This isn’t surprising because it is very draining to carry this type of energy around, and it isn’t surprising that they want someone else to help carry the burden.

Having learned many protection techniques I don’t allow this to happen to myself anymore.  If I did, I probably wouldn’t be healthy or even here physically anymore.

The amazing thing is, they don’t have to carry it either.  They can let go.  I can guarantee you that the child wants to let go, but is continuing to hold that frequency, because the parent does.  As parents we dump so much stuff on our children.  They are like little mirrors, constantly showing us what we should be looking at.  I learn so much of this from my son.  He has taught me so much about letting go and staying in the moment.  Our society is so good at pulling us out of this “happy place”.  It gives us time constraints, deadlines, and activities that make us “feel important” and needed.   As time moves on, there are moments it seems when things are going well, but we continue to find things such as illness to hang on to.  Like if we don’t have the illness, we won’t be valued or seen.  If we don’t have the illness, our child won’t be special then.  If my child isn’t sick then I will have too much free time on my hands to look at my own personal issues or ancestral issues – and who wants to do that – yuk! 

All illness is energy.  It is a frequency of energy that is moving either throughout the body or focused on a specific area.  This wavelength of energy is similar to a wave in the ocean.  The difference is that on the ocean, the ocean is in charge of the wave and we are either able to ride that wave or not.  Illness is different in that we create the wave with what we eat, what we feel, what we think, the environment around us, and the ancestral work that hasn’t been addressed.  Ancestral work is often referred to as baggage, or issues that keep getting passed down from mother to daughter, father to son, and so on.  But never really getting addressed, looked at, fixed or let go of.  This is apparent if you look at any family that passes disease from one generation to the next.  Science says it is all in our DNA.  But if that is the case, then why hasn’t science been able to actually fix anything with all this DNA information?  They have a lot of information, but nothing has yet to become of it.  Many people think it is because they are not paying attention to the emotional factors, or emotional energy or frequency on the cells. 

Blaming others

Most of the time we use blame to take pressure off of us.  We blame our parents, the bugs/organisms, the government, etc. This doesn’t work of course, it just creates drama, and pulls us further away from where we should be looking.  Unfortunately we do the same things to ourselves that our parents did to us, and that their parents did to them and the cycle continues endlessly and needlessly. Our whole life we have been told what to think, and not to feel, like our feelings had no value.  It has become such a convenient step for us to retreat into our heads instead of feeling our feelings and listening to our bodies and heart. The more we allow ourselves to feel, the more we know what is going on with ourselves.

There are ways to change this emotional energy charge.  Acknowledging it is the first step, and often the hardest step.  People are so wounded and often they use illness to hide the fact that they have pain.  With the illness, they get attention that they otherwise would not get.  One of my friends is a fireman. He has told me many times he goes on calls to people’s houses to help them and it is obvious that they just need to be touched, they just need someone to acknowledge that they exist.  They just need to be held and listened to.  It is so sad that our society has come to such a disconnected place for people.  If you feel you fall into this category, reach out to others; tell people how you really feel.  So often it is hard for us to say the things that need to be said, and instead we say things to hurt ourselves and others which only isolates us more and deepens the pain.

There are all kinds of healing techniques, therapies and books that can help people let go of pain, but often people don’t even realize that they have any.   A book that I think is excellent at pointing out how we get emotionally injured is called The Continuum Concept; In Search of Happiness Lost, by Jean Liedloff.  I encourage every parent, and anyone who wants to delve deeper into themselves to understand more of their core issues, to read this incredible book.  From this book, I was able to see how almost everyone growing up in our modern society is deeply wounded because of basic needs that our society doesn’t acknowledge.  Can you imagine growing up in a culture where no one ever physically punished a child?  Where no one ever yelled at or belittled a child?  Where there a child’s cry was considered a cry for help and someone was always around to help?  That’s how traditional cultures raised children.  Being raised this way instills an amazing sense of self-worth, personal value and internal happiness that isn’t seen very often today.

Once you have acknowledged that there is something you want to rid yourself of, then you need to allow it be gone.  This isn’t about pointing the finger or putting blame on anyone - it is about allowing.  It doesn’t mean that someone else is the cause, or even yourself is the cause– it is about changing that energy frequency you have been holding on to - allowing that musical tone (if you will) to change, to another frequency, one that will benefit you.  If you keep allowing the same tone to play, then nothing changes.  But if you start to change the channel, then everything around you can change as well.

One exercise I encourage people to start doing is to start staring at themselves in the mirror.  Really look at yourself.  Who are you? What is inside of you?  Where are you wounded? You are a beautiful human being!  Another exercise is to just sit and listen to your body.  Let your body talk to you.  It most likely has a lot to say if you haven’t been listening to it in the past.  Look at yourself and listen to your body often, to help unlock hidden pain that you can release and let go of. Get curious about yourself about the miracle you are – you will be amazed at how you can change things in your life and those around you.